These are my grandparents. Ronald Dale and Carol Lehman Moon. Yes, they’re adorable.
Let me just start off by saying that THIS is what I have always known love to be and THIS is what I always wanted to find for myself in life. These people have been in love for 58 YEARS. Lived together for 58 YEARS. Had adventures together for 58 YEARS. Made decisions together for 58 YEARS. Raised a family full of children and grandchildren for 58 YEARS. THAT IS ABSOLUTELY CRAZY… and incredibly admirable.
I am very close with my grandparents. Anyone who knows me well, knows that they are ALWAYS at the top of my mind and the bottom of the heart. They have taught me so much about understanding, forgiveness, STRENGTH, admiration, passion, AND LOVE, OF COURSE. Truthfully, they weren’t always my biggest fans. Before I was born, they dis-owned my mom for having me out-of-wedlock and wanted nothing to do with either of us. It’s a much longer story than that but they’re old school and my “father” left before I was even born… so, they were worried about their daughter and what their small town neighbors would say about it. Luckily, my mom was stubborn as hell and already loved me with everything she had. But who am I kidding, everyone in my family is stubborn. When I was born with a heart defect, all angst was dropped. So, aside from the immense amount of consequential stress, it was a blessing in disguise for bringing my family back together and creating an undeniable bond between us all. They helped take care of me whenever they got the chance and as we’ve all gotten older, I can’t help but do the same for them.
In 2015, our family really wanted to do something for their 50 anniversary but my grandma was a little busy going through breast cancer. Now don’t worry! This isn’t some sad story because it’s actually quite remarkable. She had gone through uterine cancer first, 10 YEARS AGO AS OF LAST WEEK!!! I honestly don’t remember a lot of that going on because I was in my early teen years and my relationship with my grandma had not hit its’ peak yet. When she got breast cancer in 2015, it was a little different. I was a college student at University of Nebraska at Omaha and living in the basement of my moms house. This cancer hit my grandma a little harder. Hard enough that she needed to come and stay with us for awhile until she felt capable of doing things on her own again. We didn’t have a big house with extra guest rooms or anything though, so she slept in the basement with me. I gave her my bed to sleep in and a few drawers of my dresser and I slept on the pull out couch on the other side of the room. The moment we would both agree brought us to another level is when she asked me to help her shower because it was too difficult with her battle wound stitching. I could feel how ashamed she felt even asking me for help. Most people would find that uncomfortable and awkward, and in a way it was, but it was also very innocent, vulnerable and selfless. My grandma is one of, if not the strongest, lady I know – besides my mom – and all I wanted to do was be there and help her any way I could. If that meant helping her shower, so be it. Honestly, I tear up just thinking about it because it was such a scary time for her… and me… and everyone else, BUT her strength prevailed and got her through it all. Uterine cancer (10 YEARS CLEARED), breast cancer (5 YEARS CLEARED), tackled diabetes and a heart attack not long after. This woman is a FORCE.
Now of course, I would never forget about my grandpa. For as long as I can remember, he’s had a Santa Clause belly full of ice cream and treats and has the most contagious laugh of all time. He plays piano as effortlessly as he does any other day to day activity, if not more. You can just see him light up when he starts gliding the tips of his fingers along the keys. For my generation, it’s like comparing it to learning how to type on a computer. You probably took a class or two when you were younger on how to type and now you’re a whiz, or at least decent at it, but it’s something you probably do quite often. This man plays piano the way we text and type. It’s so natural, flowing and effortless and yet, captivatingly beautiful. He’s got more stories to share than you have pictures in your phone albums. He’s got a warming love for animals, a stubborn love for his family and a childlike love for ice cream. This is the man who let me dance on his feet when I could barely reach his shoulders, took me on my first, last and only motorcycle ride (against my moms’ approval 😎✌️), taught me how to drive out on country roads in Harlan, Iowa, and shared so much family history with me. He’s multi-talented for sure, but I think his greatest skill (that my grandma shares, as well) is the ability to seek your light with their eyes. It just so happens that his eyes are the lightest color of blue… ever. So, you can’t help but be engulfed in whatever he’s saying – and if you aren’t, he’ll make sure to get your attention so that you do. All in all, this man has been through so much and has a lot to share about his life. Good thing this granddaughter is always ready for a snack and a story. Or three.
I never seemed to understand my generation of dating. The online chats, the apps, the one night stands, the games. I know everyone has a different kind of personality, social ability, mental aspect on how these things work but I just knew that it wasn’t going to work for me. I needed something personal, thoughtful, forgiving, understanding, passionate, empathetic, adventurous, exciting and just plain fun. It may sound like a lot but honestly, that’s not even setting the bar too high. I feel like society wants guys to be macho and make all the money and not have emotions. Then girls are supposed to just “do what we can” and be with whoever wants us. Well, I think not. Men – you can cry sometimes. It’s called being human. If your lady makes more money than you do, then sweet. You got yourself a sugar mamma. If you watched Gossip Girl and ended up falling in love with Chuck Bass right along with your lady, then you’re a smart man. Ladies – it’s our time. Be a boss everywhere you go and hold your head high. That doesn’t mean you can’t have emotional days though, too. Again, we are all human. I think that is the best lesson I’ve learned from these two beautiful souls – is that the more deeply you feel, the more you are human.
I’m done rambling about how adorable they are (for now) but below are some pictures from their 55th wedding anniversary. I had them give me all of the information from their original wedding day and I found out the church was still open and they would be available for reservation on my grandparents actual anniversary date!!! HOW PERFECT!!! 🙌😍 So, I got the family together and had the best day, for two of the best people, who have shown me the best kind of love. ❤️
I LOVE YOU BOTH TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THE MOON AND BACK X MILLIONS.